Airlines are very good at providing wheelchair service in the airport and getting you on and off the plane as long as you request the service. Your Dr. has to fill in a form describing your oxyen requirements and what model of concentrator you will have with you onboard. A travel agent can help you with what you need to do to get this personalized service.

I know it’s pricey, but did you look at Amtrak for going from Kansas to Philadelphia, @A MyCOPDTeam Member? Not sure where you are in Kansas, it will take over a day, but you could do it in a sleeper car for the most comfort, if your budget allows.

Otherwise, did you talk to the family about setting up a facetime or a zoom video of the wedding as it takes place?

They can get a discrete tripod and put it facing the altar to be able to see the wedding vows, if that helps…

I’m sorry your partner is hiding his quality of life issues, but as @A MyCOPDTeam Member says, maybe it’s time for some uncomfortable conversations with the extended family?

If nothing else, treating this like it was still covid and zooming or face timing in may allow your partner to participate remotely without feeling so excluded.

Hugs, as I know this sort of situation is very frustrating.

Tuesday night, 10-SEP-24

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Wondering how it would be to start telling the family the truth about his situation, even if you have to tell them on your own. Honesty is really important here. At the same time tell them how very much he wants to go.
I understand why he's been sliding around the truth for so long. There could be any number of reasons for that. But if he wants something very badly he needs to be up front with everyone. Do you think his other son would be willing to pick up the two of you if he knew the whole story?

There’s still plenty of time for zooming, @A MyCOPDTeam Member. Just know you did your best.

Wednesday, 11-SEP-24

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I thought about Amtrak, he didn’t think he could tolerate it. I think I thought of everything. I actually think he was relieved when I gave up trying. Last word from son and bride was they were going to try to set up a zoom thing. Haven’t heard anything yet.