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When My Time Comes How Will It Happen I Would Like To Know So I Can Go To Hospital First So My Wife Wont Have To Care For Me

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enfield nova scotia
5 days ago
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A MyCOPDTeam Member

@A MyCOPDTeam Member, 7 members of my family have had this disease.

Let me assure you that, if you don’t die naturally in your sleep by simply not waking up one day, there are no “surprises” with lingering.

While I’m not a doctor or medical professional, if you don’t stay active every day by continuing to move, my experience is that you slowly get less and less able to do things, and to live independently, needing more help with simple things like showering and dressing.

From there, you get more frequent flares or exacerbations.

Once you’re flaring, you start to look at how often a flare results in a hospitalization.

While in the hospital, you get a workup, and they discuss your end of life / quality of life wishes, and whether or not you have executed an AHD or Advanced Healthcare Directive.

(I created my AHD IN 2013, and just updated it earlier this month as my estate factors have changed, and California now allows MAID (Medical Aid in Dying) or eu!hanasia if your State or Country allows Death with Dignity options).

I tell you all this to say that fear of the unknown / fear of dying is normal, and you should be discussing what you want with your wife, as well as what you can afford.

Please work with an eldercare lawyer who specializes in protecting your assets for yourself and any surviving spouse, and who may be able to recommend options for dividing your assets on paper so that any surviving spouse isn’t left in poverty by your medical and long term care needs.

Additionally, if you have not already done all of the above, consider engaging a geriatric care manager to advise you on care options available in your area so that you can think specifically and practically about what you do or do not want to deal with if you do become incapacitated or in need of longer term care.

The only ones I know who are struggling with these and similar issues right now are:
@A MyCOPDTeam Member and
@A MyCOPDTeam Member

Hopefully, they will see this note and jump in with any recommendations they may have, too.

Good luck.
Thursday, 17-OCT-24

5 days ago
A MyCOPDTeam Member

@A MyCOPDTeam Member We are all concerned by "My Time Comes" - you must speak about it with your General Practioner, tell him what you would like and what you don't want at the end, going to hospital, hospice or palliative care. You must have a doctor to whom you can count on and trust in this matter. Hugs and Tenderness!😘

5 days ago
A MyCOPDTeam Member

Sure, @A MyCOPDTeam Member. You are struggling to care for your husband from a quality and affordability standpoint, right?

When I replied to @A MyCOPDTeam Member, it was with the thought that none of us go quickly, even if we want to, so having someone who’s going through the challenges of finding a way to survive may offer him a financial or pre-planning viewpoint for dealing with his own healthcare needs.

(Hopefully, that explanation makes more sense).

REF: https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/advance-care-pla...

Don’t hesitate to correct me if I’ve misunderstood your care challenges.

Thursday night, 17-OCT-24

https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/advance-care-planning/advance-care-planning-advance-directives-health-care
4 days ago
A MyCOPDTeam Member

Hey @A MyCOPDTeam Member I don't think I understand what you are meaning when you say I am struggling with issues here as with @A MyCOPDTeam Member. Can you explain it to me?

5 days ago

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