You don’t, @A MyCOPDTeam Member.

Tell him if he can’t or won’t help you, you'll ask for a divorce and get half the assets and then move to senior housing where you don’t have to apologize for being ill and needing help. (Don’t do this unless you’re serious and ready for a fight / drama)

Remind him that you’d help yourself if you could, but that it might be time to get home help coverage (as paid for by Medicare, based on your physician’s confirmation of inability to remain independent and physically sufficient to participate in the activities of daily living (house cleaning, showering, meal preparation, dressing, etc.)).

At 71+ years of age, you’re both retired, I presume, and have a right to live in peace. His bullying you over your participation in household chores is considered bullying, and may rise to the level of elder abuse.

If you need to, contact your local adult protective services group and ask for an in-home evaluation about the situation.

* * * I am not a lawyer or medicare expert, so I hope these suggestions give you a starting point for considering your safety and options to live in peace. * * *

Good luck.
Saturday, 03-FEB-24

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It plays with our emotions not being able to do things we once could. We don’t need someone telling us we can’t do it. We need Love and support to help

Agree that his behavior is less than helpful, at best. Suggest you find a good couples therapist and try some counseling. Even if he won't go, get some help for yourself to help you learn ways to deal with him.

Thank you Joanne. I appreciate it and you are correct. It is bullying.